Housemate Anna spends $300 on sale clothes, then demands her 23-year-old roommate fund her groceries: ‘She had eaten almost all of my leftovers and made dinner using a bunch of my ingredients’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Jul 17, 2025 7:00 AM EDT

Living with roommates comes with a constant need to sell yourself on a dream of rent cut in half, bills split clean, and a fridge where everyone minds their own shelf. Reality hits when one half of the duo mistakes the shared kitchen for her personal safety net, money plans vanishing under a pile of sale tags until someone else's lasagna becomes a lifeline.  

Flatmate Anna walked through the door last week in new shoes and bargain sweaters, bragging the haul only cost three hundred. The boast felt harmless until the fridge looked like a crime scene, and her 23-year-old, financially responsible roommate's leftovers were missing. Budget confession followed: the food fund was gone, eaten by retail therapy, and payday sat a week away.  

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  • My roommate Anna (24F) and I (23F) have been living together for eight months. We split rent and utilities but buy our own food and personal stuff.
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  • A small favour turned into an open buffet. Anna's roommate returned from work to find pasta pots scrubbed clean, sauce jars empty, and one Anna pleased with her own chef skills. She asked for a grocery loan next, the request wrapped in friendly guilt with a reminder that her roommate earns more and should share the wealth. She skipped the part where budgets stay balanced by not treating credit cards as closets. 

  • AITJ for not paying for my roommates groceries after she spent her food money on clothes?

    "Anna came home with new clothes and shoes, then asked if she could "borrow" some of my food"
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  • Last week Anna came home with a bunch of new clothes and shoes. She was showing them off and mentioned she got everything on sale but still spent like $300.
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  • I didn't think much of it at the time. But then yesterday she asked if she could "borrow" some of my food because she was running low.
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  • I said sure thinking she meant like a few things. But when I got home from work she had eaten almost all of my leftovers and made dinner using a bunch of my ingredients.
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  • When I asked her about it she said she didn't have money for groceries this week because she spent too much on clothes.
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  • She said she would pay me back when she gets paid next Friday. I was annoyed but figured it was just a one time thing.
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  • But then today she asked if I could spot her for groceries this week. She said she would pay me back but she really needs food and I "have plenty of money."
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  • She declined, polite but firm, and the apartment temperature dropped ten degrees. Anna now claims moral high ground, calling her selfish and classist while avoiding the checkout lane of accountability.

  • I told her I wasn't comfortable with that and that she needed to figure out her own budget.
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  • She got really defensive and said I was being mean and that friends help each other out.
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  • But the thing is, I have a better job because I didn't drop out of college like she did.
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  • And I can afford things because I budget and don't spend my food money on unnecessary stuff.
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  • She's been really cold to me since then and even said I was being "classist" for not helping her when she's struggling.
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  • TL;DR: Roommate spent her food money on clothes then asked me to pay for her groceries, I said no and now she's calling me selfish and classist.
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